August 28, 2019

Expectations In The Everyday World

By Barry Rudesill

Today, I’ve taken a break from writing, proofing, filming, and editing to take my son to the hospital for his annual cardiac check-up. My son was born with a life-threatening cardiac condition and, in fact, died on the LifeFlight from the hospital where he was born to the hospital where the surgery was to take place.

Thankfully they were able to restart his heart and stabilize him. He underwent open-heart surgery at three-days-old and it was successful. Now, each year, he gets to go through a battery of tests to make sure that his heart is doing well.

I don’t mind going with him to the hospital, because this can be literally a matter of life-or-death. It’s definitely more important to me than proofing workbooks or editing videos. Besides, I usually end up doing what I’m doing now – sitting in the cafeteria, drinking coffee, and spending the “quiet time” to slow down and just breathe.

Today, as I’m sitting here, looking out the window, I’ve come to realize that I have some Expectations that I’ve never really looked into before. You see, I Expect that my son will get up each morning; I Expect the repairs made to his heart will hold; I Expect that I will have one more day with him. I don’t give any of these a second thought; I simply Expect that he will continue to grow up to be the intelligent, caring young man that I see.

However, what I sometimes fail to realize is that life is a gift...not a right…

If you’re like me, you just Expect that your life will be pretty much the same from day-to-day. It’s not until the emergency trip to the hospital or the death of someone close to us that we begin to realize what our Expectations really were.

By the time we can actually see these Expectations, it may be too late.

Today is what we are given, it's what we have to work with, so today is the day we need to act. If you see someone you love, give them a hug and tell them. If there is a conflict you have with someone, today is as good a day as any to sit down and talk it out. If there is someone you miss, pick up the phone. Don’t Expect that you’ll have time in the future; make time in the “now” and follow through.

Just my random thoughts over coffee.

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